Category: Sober
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I haven’t published anything for the last several days. I’ve still been writing but those writings have just been for me. I needed the break. I want to publish because I want to, not because I feel like I have to. I don’t write as a job, and sometimes the things I’m working through need…
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I use the word chose deliberately because that’s what happened. I saw a headline that sent me down a rabbit hole. Clickbait works. As I kept on reading I could feel myself getting angrier and angrier. Before long at all I had started writing a post fueled completely by that anger and my sense of…
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Last night I ate a lot of cherry tomatoes with my evening meal. Usually there wouldn’t be anything special about that but these came from our own garden. There’s just something special about eating food you’ve grown yourself. Food you’ve watered, weeded around, patiently waited for, and finally get to enjoy. After living in apartments…
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There’s one part of every day that I dread. Bedtime. As the sun starts setting I can already feel it creeping in. The closer bedtime gets the more the anxiety builds. Ever since I got off alcohol and especially since getting off benzos, that feeling has gotten insanely intense. Then come the nightmares. I wake…
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I’ve written a lot recently about how I’m happier than I’ve ever been before. I even made a video talking about it. (I’ll try to do more videos, that’s just unfamiliar territory for me) But there’s another thing going on too that I don’t think I’ve mentioned yet. It’s that feeling people sometimes describe as…
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My decades long internal self loathing, conflict, and strife are at an end. And I didn’t have to die to achieve that. When I look back on the decades I carried that self loathing, it makes me a little sad. Nobody should hate themselves that much for that long. But a lot of people do,…
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For whatever reason I’ve seen more people giving up in the last two weeks than I have since I began recovery myself. Those of us in recovery communities see it happen, and it’s heartbreaking because we’re mostly powerless to stop it. We can’t force anybody to get clean and sober and we can’t force anybody…
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Getting ready to move into our new home has brought a lot of choices. What to keep, what to donate, and what to throw away. Some decisions are easy. My books, for example. Those are staying. I don’t care if I’ve already read some of them multiple times. Books can be like old friends, and…
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My wife and I spent yesterday babysitting our little grandson! This coming Thursday we close on our new home, and after that we start the process of moving in. Just last week we spent the week in Texas visiting our granddaughter. Life is good! And it’s because I’m sober and clean. While we were driving…
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What’s real and what’s “woo”? Most of the time it’s pretty easy to spot actual nonsense. Snake-oil salesmen have always been around and probably always will. Whether they’re selling miracle cures, magic crystals that supposedly solve every problem, or some expensive supplement guaranteed to change your life overnight, there have always been people willing to…