Category: Sober

  • I am torn this way and that. My mind aching from the poisons of worry and fear. My body weak and stiff from tension. This foolish “I” can do nothing to rescue myself. Frequently lost in the delusion of permanence I grasp at this and that, Not understanding the illusory nature of all things. How grateful I am for Boundless…

  • Some days we are just so exhausted, so weary, that we just don’t have anything to offer. It’s times like those that we just have to step back and take care of ourselves. To take some time to mend and heal ourselves. Today is one of those times for me. Please take care of yourselves.…

  • I’ve been struggling more here recently and I couldn’t figure out why. One reason is obvious though, I’m in a wave at almost 17 months out. But the rest I just couldn’t quite put my finger on it. Then sometime in the wee hours this morning, somewhere between sleep and wake, it hit me. It’s…

  • One of my favorite recovery writers announced today that they’re taking a break for a while. I truly hope they’re OK and finding what they need. I understand though. Recovery is hard enough on its own, and trying to show up every day with something meaningful or helpful can feel overwhelming. Especially with all the…

  • Several years ago someone very dear to me was really struggling. Life was kicking them in the teeth as the saying goes and they just couldn’t find a way out. They were heading down a very dark path, one I was already walking myself and I didn’t want that for them. We had a lot…

  • My wife told me this morning that she woke up in the middle of the night thinking about something that might help someone today, that everyone needs an “anchor.” Something to hold on to, through daily life, through rough patches, or through recovery. I thought that was a good point and idea. One of the…

  • This is a hard thing to write about. I’ve had at least two attempts at writing this, trashing some drafts because I felt I came across too angry for it to get my point across. It’s personal, and I know it might stir some strong reactions, so I’m being careful here. But I can’t just…

  • “This sucks!”. That was the insight during meditation yesterday evening. No nirvana without samsara. No lotus without the mud. No “good” without the “bad.” Everything exists right here, right now, even when the here and now sucks out loud… or feels amazing. The last seven days or so have been tough for me. I think…

  • I feel exhausted today after really bad, fitful sleep last night. Those nightmares again. I finally got out of bed, made some tea, and sat looking out the window. I found myself searching for something good, something hopeful, so the dreams wouldn’t set the tone for the entire day. Nothing came at first. Then I…

  • I had a post ready to publish today but just as I was about to hit “publish” I stopped myself. That post was driven by my own anger and I didn’t want to put that kind of energy out into the world. We’re all suffering enough already. I didn’t want to add to anyone’s suffering.…