Category: Recovery

  • I’ve touched on this subject before, but recently my wife and I were talking about it again. During that conversation she suggested I dedicate an entire post to it, so here it is. We were talking about how important it is not to wait too long to do the things you truly want to do.…

  • Last night we were sitting in a restaurant in Texas with our granddaughter squeezed into the booth between my wife and me. We were playfully elbowing each other as if we didn’t have enough room for all of us. Every time she bumped me with her little elbow, I’d exaggerate my reaction, make a funny…

  • Here’s something I’ve considered writing about several times but haven’t actually done so until now. The reason I’ve wanted to write about it is because I really do believe it can help people, just like it’s helped me, a lot. The reason I’ve hesitated is because of its Zen origins. For whatever reason, some people…

  • “Don’t change anything for a couple of years.” Those were my doctor’s words when I got clean. He said them in response to all the plans I had for improving my life. I wanted to quit tobacco, fix my sleep schedule, and do a dozen other things all at once. Tuns out he knew what…

  • I realize my writing schedule isn’t the same as it was before, but as I’ve mentioned in recent posts, it’s because life has been really, really busy lately. Buying a house, welcoming a new grandson into the world, and being inundated with emails and texts from the real estate agent, title company, inspectors, and everyone…

  • I keep learning since getting clean new ways to approach life and I’ve realized I’m not just learning new things… I’m also un-learning old ones. Modern society tries to tell us that softness is weakness and hardness is strength. But I think that’s backward. Softness is the way of life. Green grass is soft, water…

  • Wow! So many things are happening so fast, and these are good, exciting things. Our new home is officially under contract now, so nobody can come along and snatch it out from underneath us. Even though we’ve had a home built before, we’ve never purchased one that was already built, and we definitely didn’t expect…

  • I saw a post someone recently did about why they are conservative. Some of it I understood, even if I disagreed. But most of it was openly hostile toward other human beings, especially LGBTQ+ people, immigrants, and anyone outside their version of Christianity. It made me think about why I hold the views I do.…

  • Here lately I’ve been asking myself what do I really want with the time I have left? Not a “to do” list or a bucket list, but what do I really want for my life now? And also maybe just as much, how do I want to be remembered? Some people will always remember me…

  • I’ve been feeling a weird and persistent heaviness lately, a sadness I just haven’t been able to explain or completely put my finger on. The recent birth of my grandson is certainly joyous, and I couldn’t be happier about that, but this feeling still just hangs on. Sometimes putting a name to a feeling helps…